Ongoing Individual Therapy
You have been carrying this
for a long time.
You do not have to keep managing it.
You understand yourself. You just cannot seem to change the parts that matter most.
You are not someone who avoids self-reflection. You have probably read the books, listened to the podcasts, maybe done some therapy before. You can describe your patterns clearly, sometimes with uncomfortable precision. What you cannot figure out is why that understanding has not translated into actually being different in the moments that count.
That is not a failure of insight. That is what happens when the thing that needs to change lives below the level where insight reaches.
Who we work with
People who are done managing and ready to actually heal.
My individual therapy clients tend to be self-aware, motivated, and genuinely tired , not of their lives, but of a specific thing that keeps not working no matter how much effort they put in. They are not looking for coping strategies or weekly check-ins. They want to get somewhere real.
Being high-functioning does not protect you from the weight of unresolved things. Often it just means you have gotten very good at carrying it without anyone noticing, including yourself.
Adults who recognize a recurring relational pattern and are ready to understand and change it at the root, not just manage its symptoms
People carrying complex childhood trauma or difficult attachment histories that have quietly shaped every significant relationship since
Individuals moving through a major life transitions like separation, divorce, a relationship ending , who want real support, not just survival
People who have tried talk therapy before and felt like they plateaued and who need an approach that works at a different level
Anyone whose nervous system still responds to current relationships as if they are old ones, and who is ready to change that
People who are functioning well by every external measure and still know, quietly, that something needs to shift
Real change does not happen because you finally understand the pattern well enough. It happens when your nervous system learns a different response, and that requires a different kind of work.
How sessions work
What ongoing individual therapy actually looks like here.
This is not a space where you talk and I nod. It is a working relationship, one where we are going to notice things, name things, and occasionally say something harder to hear than a reflection. Sessions are 50 minutes, typically weekly or biweekly depending on where you are and what the work requires.
Step 1
We start where you actually are
Not where you think you should be. The first few sessions are about understanding what you are carrying, how you got here, and what you genuinely want to be different — not the aspirational version, the honest one.
Step 2
We go underneath the story
The narrative of what happened is important. But what we are really after is what that experience did to your nervous system — how it shaped the way you move through relationships, intimacy, conflict, and connection. That is where the real work lives.
Step 3
We work with the body, not just the mind
Depending on what you are working on, we may use Brainspotting or EMDR to process what talk alone cannot reach. This is not something that gets imposed on you, it is something we move toward together when it fits.
Step 4
Change shows up in your life, not just in sessions
The marker of this work actually working is not how sessions feel. It is what happens in the moments that used to derail you. The argument you navigate differently. The relationship where you stay present instead of disappearing. The pattern you notice starting, and choose something different.
