Restorative Couple’s Intensives
This is a different kind of couple’s intensive, this is one that goes beneath the patterns to what is actually driving them.
You have worked on your relationship. Something still is not shifting.
You are not people who give up easily. You have probably been to therapy, read the books, had the hard conversations more than once. You understand your patterns, maybe even with uncomfortable precision. And there is still this thing. This distance, this cycle, this place you keep ending up, that does not move no matter how much effort you put in.
That is not a failure of effort. It is a sign the work needs to go somewhere conversation alone has not reached yet.
What makes this different
This is not standard couples therapy stretched into a longer format. It is a genuinely different kind of work.
Most couples therapy works at the level of communication, insight, and relational patterns. That work matters and for a lot of couples it is exactly what they need. But for couples who have done that work and still feel stuck, the issue is almost never that they need more of it.
What they need is work that reaches the nervous system. The place where patterns actually live. Where old wounds get activated before there are even words for it. Where one of you goes somewhere else mid-conversation without choosing to. Restorative intensives are built to get there.
Focuses on communication and relational patterns
Works at the level of insight and conversation
Addresses what is happening between you
Helps you understand the dynamic
A strong fit for early to mid stage relational work
The argument is almost never really about the argument. Underneath it is a nervous system firing, an old attachment wound, a part of one of you that learned a long time ago that this is what love feels like. Getting underneath that is where this work begins.
Goes beneath the pattern to what is driving it in each nervous system
Integrates somatic and brain-based processing with relational work
Addresses what each person holds individually and what it creates between you
Changes the felt experience, not just the understanding of it
Built for couples who have done the work and need to go deeper
What a restorative couples intensive looks like from the first call to the last session.
The extended format is not incidental to this work. It is essential to it. The nervous system needs time to open, time to process, and time to integrate what has shifted before the next layer is approached. What becomes accessible in six hours together is genuinely different from what fifty minutes six times can reach. The work builds on itself in a way weekly sessions simply cannot replicate.
A pre-intensive consultation
Before anything begins, we talk. All three of us together, then briefly with each of you separately. I want to understand what you are both carrying into this, what has worked and what has not, and what each of your nervous systems needs in order to feel safe enough for deep work. That conversation shapes everything that follows.
Arriving before we go anywhere
The first part of every intensive is not about diving in. It is about landing. Getting your nervous systems settled, orienting to each other in the room, and establishing the relational safety that makes everything else possible. In PACT this is not preliminary work. It is the actual beginning of the work.
Moving between the relational and the somatic
The core of the intensive moves between what is happening between you and what each of you is holding individually. PACT attends to the relational field in real time. EMDR and Brainspotting go after the individual material when it surfaces. These are not separate tracks. They follow each other, inform each other, and together reach places that neither could get to alone.
Breaks built into the design
Rest is part of the work, not an interruption to it. The nervous system needs time to integrate what has shifted before the next layer becomes accessible. We pace deliberately throughout. What happens during a break matters as much as what happens in the room.
A grounded close and follow-up
We do not end at the edge of something raw. Every intensive closes with intentional integration time so you leave settled, grounded, and clear about what shifted. A follow-up session is included in the week after to support what continues to process once you are back in your regular life.
The approach
PACT as the relational foundation. EMDR and Brainspotting to go where conversation cannot.
Restorative intensives bring three evidence-informed frameworks into the same room, working together rather than in sequence. The relational and the somatic inform each other in real time. What surfaces between you as a couple shapes the individual somatic work. What shifts in the body changes what is possible between you. It all moves together.
PACT
Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy
PACT understands the couple as a biological unit, two nervous systems in constant real-time communication with each other. Sessions are experiential and present-focused, working with what is actually happening between you in the room rather than reconstructing last week's argument. Eye contact, facial expression, posture, the micro-moments of connection and disconnection, PACT attends to all of it and is the relational backbone of every restorative intensive.
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) and Brainspotting
When relational patterns are rooted in individual history, whether childhood attachment wounds, past relationships, or specific experiences that never fully resolved, EMDR reaches and reprocesses what is driving those patterns at the level where they are actually stored. In a restorative intensive, EMDR addresses the individual material and issues between you that keeps showing up in the relational dynamic and reduces its charge so it stops pulling the relationship backward.
These two approaches are not run as separate protocols. They are woven together in real time, following the thread wherever it leads and using whatever the moment calls for. This is responsive clinical work, not a predetermined script.
Formats and Pricing
Choose the container that fits what you are bringing.
Format is not one size fits all. We talk through which option makes sense during your pre-intensive consultation so the time is matched to the work rather than the other way around.
Half Day
3 Hours
Focused and contained
A targeted restorative session for couples working on a specific stuck point or a single layer of relational wounding. Works well as a periodic deep dive alongside ongoing therapy or as a first experience of this kind of work.
$850
Full Day
6 Hours with Breaks
Deep and integrative
The most common format. Enough room to move through multiple layers, both relational and somatic, and close from a genuinely integrated place. The right starting point for most couples doing restorative work for the first time.
$1700
Multi-Day
2 to 3 Non-Consecutive Days
For complex, layered histories
For couples carrying complex trauma histories, significant betrayal, or long-standing disconnection. Each day builds on what shifted the day before. Overnight processing is a genuine part of what makes multi-day work so powerful.
$1700 per day
Is this the right fit?
The couples this work is built for and an honest word about who it is not.
Restorative intensives are not a starting point for couples who are new to relational work. They are for couples who have done some work already and are ready to go to a level that standard couples therapy has not yet reached. Both partners need to be genuinely willing to show up for that kind of depth.
This is the right fit if….
You have been in couples therapy and feel like you have hit a ceiling — the insight is there but the pattern is not changing
One or both of you carries individual history that is clearly showing up in the relationship and you want to address it in a relational context
Your reactivity to each other feels bigger than the situation warrants, like something underneath the argument is doing most of the driving
You have been through something significant as a couple and need more than weekly sessions can hold to actually move through it
You both want to do real work and are willing to go somewhere uncomfortable to get there
You want change at the level of felt experience, not just in your understanding of things
Take the next step
The conversation that starts this costs nothing.
A consultation call is where we figure out whether a restorative intensive is the right fit, what format makes sense, and what this work would actually look like for your relationship. No pressure, no commitment. Just an honest conversation about where you are and what might actually help.